Alcoholics and addicts are notoriously self-obsessed. In some ways, we’ve had to be in order to survive. But that selfishness is also a symptom of our illness.
During most of my active addiction, I was concerned with staying alive, trying to get clean, and managing my raging mental illness. But then I got sober. A big tenet of being in recovery is service. However, in AA, that’s usually limited to setting up chairs, making coffee, leading meetings, helping other alcoholics, and the like.